SUCCESS after a nightmare weekend of trial and error
just before giving in and buying a new motor i had a thought
i said i will switch my x motor, the one giving me issues, with my z motor, working fine
in switching i remembered i took off 2 screws i originally thought were binding the coupler that were over the leadscrew on the side of the machine
so i put those back on while swaping motors, re tuned x axis and 3 test runs later
a 1.5 pocketed circle and a 3in circle contoured in multiple passes
and then finally back to my original program with the irregular arcs all 3 came out without stepping over like it was preiviously doing
no more lost steps, thanks a ton to HAL and HOOD
you guys helped me get my machine going
cant thank you enough!