Hmmmm, isn't your G81 line drilling to Z0? So with the tool length offset applied, .1304, wouldn't it drill to PLUS .1304, "short by about 1/8"?
Don't know why T2 would be going about an inch too deep, it should be .2758 too deep assuming your drilling to "Z0" as your G81 lines indicate.
What's generating your gcode, or is it hand written?
And, I don't think the G43 line matters what order the G43, the H3, or a Z move are in.