Hello again guys
First of all a GIGANTIC thank you for all your help and support.
I'm back to tell you that after several long, difficult cuts at top speed, I FINALLY have no missed steps.
My problem was all related to the computers I was using. If you're having a very similar problem, save yourself some headache, and try a computer with no less than 1.6ghz processor, with a separate video card (not on board), and use a fresh install of windows, or whatever OS you're using.
I still don't know what exactly was causing it, but after stripping xp down to the bare minimums, and following the optimization suggestions from the support section of this site, two of my machines have the exact same problem. I have read nearly every post on this forum, and several others that discuss skipping or stalling motors, and have tried every suggestion I've read, but in the end what finally cured my problem was a completely different computer. I went to the local surplus store, picked up a 2.6ghz 512mb ram pentium 4 desktop for $75.00, and even before the optimizing, the problem was gone.
A 333mhz pc would run smoothly, but it was too slow, it can't pulse fast enough for 10x microstepping drives and motors with 10tpi screws, so it didn't really answer any questions for me.
As for the little 'ticking' sound while jogging, this seems to be something about the keyboard polling or something, because it only does it for me on the slower machines, and only when using key jogging. The ticking sound didn't happen when it was just code running the motors.
Right now the rapids on the machine are ridiculously fast, I can jog at over 177ipm with fairly low acceleration numbers, or 145 with quick acceleration. Of course, cutting that fast isn't realistic, but when it comes to programs with lots of jogging, it saves a HUGE amount of time.
So, thank you thank you thank you thank you thank you thank you thank you thank you thank you thank you thank you thank you thank you thank you thank you thank you thank you thank you thank you thank you thank you thank you thank you thank you thank you thank you thank you all very much!