Well, current update is All Limits fitted and working, I have mastered the Soft Limits issues and I am now nearly ready to start making something (Weee!)

I have been following Mr Tweakies Project using an RC Model Aircraft 3 Phase Outrunner Motor as a Spindle Motor with great interest as I have one or two of these beasties knocking around looking for something to do. He makes it look so easy!!!
I have spent some time with CamBam and eventually got my head into it, produced a string of Gcode to make my parts and tested it on my Machine with a lump of expanded polystyrene and to my amazement it does exactly as the drawing - Wonderful!!
My question is that I want to machine some 9.5mm Aluminum Bar with a 3mm Long Shank End Mill and I am becoming confused with all the information about Spindle Speeds and Feed Rates around the web. I am not concerned about ripping it out at x rates of knots, time is no longer a bonus here, but what I don't want to do is snap bits and or destroy the metal.
What would the recommended Spindle Speed and Feed Rates be to give me a nice finish with this size of End Mill. I gather the feed rates are in feet per second Y/N
Thanks in advance