Is that an ER collet in the pic?




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If so, it looks as though you might have a problem with your spindle taper.
You really need to get a handle on appropriate feeds and speeds for the material you are cutting and the cutting tool you are using.
Randomly stabbing at the settings will get you nothing but wasted material and trashed milling cutters.
Many cutting tool manufacturers/suppliers have feed/speed recommendations for their tooling on their web sites, and there a number of good
general references to be found.....Google "milling feeds and speeds".
Rex