mhasting2004 I wanted from a start to connect it via RS485 so at the time I do manually

. I have PD001=0 and PD002=1 - run and stop on VFDs buttons and speed over 10k pot. If you have spare contact on your external button you can use it to directly turn spindle off. You just have to set one of the inputs of VFD to be STOP. For example you can set PD044 (FOR contact) to 4 and that should do the trick. You send Mach info about stop and at the same time you do hardware stop (much safer than s/w as you pointed out).
Hope that's the answer you were looking for.